Wednesday, December 14, 2005
You'd never know it from just looking, but I am now in a new location.
After 19 years in the same office, I have moved to a new suite with kindred practitioners. I am grateful for the good long run I had in my old office. I am looking forward to the next phase in my new office. It is full of possibility. We all feel it.
AND...a truly exciting feature is that we are turning the office into a "mini gallery" for an artist friend of mine. She is a painter, photographer, shaman, psychotherapist, and coach. Visit her web site For-the-Earth.com. The energy of her work is amazing. It exudes healing and transformation.
Ah, yes...we are truly blessed.
(If you want to know about our open house, send me an email.)
'til next time ~
Wanda Tucker, Coach
(photographs by Jeanette French ~ printed with permission)
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
Yesterday I was a guest on The Coaching Corner with Irene Gutmann at wrcr in Rockland County, New York. We had a fun time talking about gratitude.
It is amazing how fast a half hour goes on the radio! And Irene was a very relaxed seamless host. With Thanksgiving coming up here in the U.S. we thought the topic is timely.
I understand that the live stream wasn't working at the web site for wrcr, so if you want to hear the show, send me an email and I'll get it to you somehow. Irene will send me a tape once she gets copies made. I just received a message from her saying that she may keep this show in her "best of" file for future reference.
So what about gratitude?
What are the benefits?
- Taking time to be grateful can change your outlook on life,
- make you feel better,
- even cause you to be more optimistic.
- By focusing on what is good, we can achieve more balance (i.e., not just focus on what is "wrong").
- Sleep may improve when we focus on what we are grateful for at bed time and let go of what is bothering us.
- Being more relaxed as a result of gratitude practice may even help lower blood pressure. (Sorry, I don't have the research to prove this. It is my belief.)
This isn't about being a Pollyanna and not paying attention to those things which we can do something about. It is about giving us a new outlook: an attitude of gratitude.
How to do it?
Developing a Gratitude Practice is easy. There is no one right way to do it. Do what works for you. That being said, here are a couple of ideas that might be useful to you:
1. Find an Anchor. An anchor is like a trigger. Each time you come across your anchor, you "remember" to do your practice. You can anchor to time, place, object, or activity, for example:
- Time - every day at 8:00 a.m. and/or 8:00 p.m. (Choose the time that is best for you.)
- Place - whenever you are in the kitchen or the bathroom or your car. (Think what this would do for road rage if everyone were to try it!)
- Object - whenever you are at a red traffic light or see a fire hydrant. Any object will do--a pencil, a computer....
- Activity - whenever you brush your teeth, fold laundry, wait for a web page to load.
2. Find things or concepts or issues of all sizes to be thankful for. It is easy to be thankful for our family and friends, having enough to eat, living in a place where we can be free. Think of tiny things and huge things and medium things: like the beauty of the bubbles in your coffee cup, people who are working to end world hunger, having a warm house in the winter.
3. Stretch yourself. Think of at least one new thing to be grateful for each time you do your practice. Try being grateful for something that didn't go the way you had hoped or planned, because it gives you the opportunity to learn a new way.
Let me know how your practice goes.
Let me know now, some things you are grateful for.
Blessings to you all,
Wanda Tucker, Coach
Saturday, November 12, 2005
Here she is--the lovely lady of the house. She tends to be a bit spooky. So far, this is the best picture I have been able to get of her. She is outside, looking through the kitty door to see what awaits her upon entry.
Just me...with the camera.
Marty is probably asleep in the closet. Not a bad idea.
Where do you like to go to rest? Where is your favorite napping place?
Rest consciously. Rest often. Conserve your energy. Use it wisely.
Wanda Tucker, Coach
Wednesday, October 26, 2005
We try to keep a stiff upper lip, but the accumulation of unresolved trauma or the sheer overwhelm of too many traumatic events happening so close together that we can't metabolize everything can wear us down. Being brave and acting like nothing affects us doesn't work over time.
In the face of so much chaos, suffering, and loss, we can only do what we can do. Some pray; some send money; some offer shelter or succor; some go lend a hand--literally. Some choose less constructive means for dealing with their feelings.
In this installment, I offer you first aid for trauma. You can use this on yourself. You can share it with friends and family. You can even use it on your pets. Whether you are affected directly by the rage of the storm and events in your own life, or your trauma comes from watching, reading, or hearing about what happens to others, this intervention can help.
This sequence of points shown in the pictures below make up a first aid intervention for trauma. It can be used on physical or emotional trauma, old or new. Before I give you the instructions, I want to give credit to Dr. Roger Callahan (originator of Thought Field Therapy) and Dr. Helen Tuggy who developed this intervention.
In the pictures below, Jasmin Hughes demonstrates the location of the acupuncture points used for this first aid treatment. However, instead of needles (as in acupuncture) you can activate the points for yourself by tapping on them with your fingers.
These five points, when activated by tapping in sequence can alleviate the discomfort, pressure, or emotional charge that is built up as the result of trauma. Here, Jasmin uses one finger on the points in order to indicate more clearly where they are, but you can use two or more fingers when you tap on yourself.
The points are very forgiving. You only need to be in the correct area when you tap. If you are not on the precise point, the treatment will still work.
While thinking about your trauma and focusing on what you are feeling in your body, use one or more fingers to tap several times on each of these points in this order:
1. Under the eyes
This point is directly below the pupil on the cheek bones.
2. Under the arms
On the side seams about four inches below the armpit, most people find a tender spot. That is the target for this point. The points are level with the nipple line.
(An alternate way to reach these points is to cross your arms, as if you are giving yourself a hug, so your right hand taps your left side and your left hand taps your right side.)
The eyebrow points are at the inside end of the eyebrow, closest to the nose.
Put your two index fingers in that notch. Then move them down the center line one inch and away from each other (toward the shoulders) one inch.
Your fingers will be under a "knob" on each side. That knob is the sternoclavicular joint.
5. Little finger
At the tip of the little finger, tap on the cuticle at the side of the nail that is closest to the ring finger. (Where the red dot is.)
When you have finished a round of tapping, stop and check in with yourself. How are you feeling? Has the troubling sensation in your body diminished? Is the emotional upset less? If not, you may do as many more rounds of tapping as you need to take the charge or edge off what you feel.
[An alternate way to apply this sequence is to tap on each point until it feels done. Instead of tapping five to ten times, you may tap for 15 to 20 seconds or more on each point.]
Give it a try. Let me know how it works for you. If you have any questions, please post them or send me an email.
Tell me how you feel after you've tried it. Tell me how it works for you.
From your energy coach,
Sunday, October 23, 2005
~ Zig Ziglar (speaker and author)
What motivates you?
Dreams of success?
The smiles on your loved one's faces?
Money? (Not having enough? Or wanting to accumulate more?)
Avoiding pain? (Prevention or alleviation?)
Looking good in the eyes of others? Or feeling good about yourself and what you have accomplished?
Acting on your spiritual or ethical values?
Different things can motivate us in particular circumstances. I am motivated to change the sheets on my bed by remembering the feel of crawling into a fresh bed. I am motivated to balance my checkbook because I want to avoid overdraft charges.
Sometimes my motivation directs me toward the outcome, and other times my motivation encourages me away from consequences I don't like. It is good to know whether we respond better to "toward" or "away from" motivations in each situation. Then we can better organize for success.
Think about some situations in your own life. Are you motivated by "toward" or "away from"? Then, tell me what works for you.
Your energy coach,
Monday, October 17, 2005
On Tuesday, November 22nd (10:30 a.m. Eastern / 7:30 a.m. Pacific), I will be on Coaching Corner as the guest of host, Irene Guttman.
The program is about gratitude--perfect for Thanksgiving week, don't you think?
The link above will allow you to catch the program by live stream. I hope you will join us. If you need any more information, feel free to email me. I'd love to hear from you. Or, if you want to post your questions here, I will answer them for everyone to see.
I am sure I will have more to say about it all later. For now, I just wanted to give you all a head's up. This should be fun!
Talk to you soon,
Wanda Tucker, your energy coach
Tuesday, October 04, 2005
Epictetus, Roman Philosopher
Sunday, September 25, 2005
Sunday, September 18, 2005
Monday, September 12, 2005
(Marian Anderson, photographed by Carl Van Vechten, 1940)"As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might."
Marian Anderson (1897-1993, Concert and Opera Singer)
Marian Anderson knew about people trying to keep her down. In 1939 the famous contralto sang on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial on Easter Sunday at a concert that was arranged by Eleanor Roosevelt after the Daughters of the American Revolution refused to allow Ms. Anderson to sing in Constitution Hall. Why? Because she was black.
When she was turned away from music school because of her race, she continued her training with a private teacher. In 1955, at the age of 58, she became the first African-American to perform at the New York Metropolitan Opera. In 1972 she was awarded the UN Peace Prize, and she received a Grammy Award for Lifetime Achievement in 1991.
She soared anyway.
Wanda Tucker, Your Energy Coach
Friday, September 09, 2005
Marty - close up. Copyright 2005. Wanda Tucker. All rights reserved.
When he heard the shutter he opened his eyes...briefly.
Wednesday, September 07, 2005
Sunday, August 28, 2005
There are spam bloggers out there who will post comments to as many sites as will allow them to do so. They post the same kind of spam that we hate to get in our mailboxes--everything from low cost software to mortgages to pornography.
Need I say more?
So, in order to post to my site, you must be a registered Blogger user:
- What that means is that you must set up a Blogger account.
- You may still choose to be unidentifiable depending upon what user name you choose
- and what display name you use.
- Setting up an account is free.
- Once you have set up your account you may choose whether or not to start a blog of your own. (If you do, let me know.) Registering an account does not require that you blog.
How do you do it?
- When you click on the "comment" link, it will allow you to sign in as a registered user.
- That gives you a link to the page to set up an account.
- Or click on one of the links above.
- From there, all you have to do is fill in the blanks.
To those of you who find this annoying, I understand. To those of you who choose to set up an account and post, thank you. I appreciate it.
I love hearing from you. And I like knowing when you come by.
Wanda Tucker, Coach
Saturday, August 27, 2005
Thursday, August 25, 2005
"Many years ago, our ancestor came into your territory and your waters, and he's a man we have been proud of for many years. But as we have learned more of our history, and learned more of your stories, we have begun to realize that part of his story is one that has been disrespectful to your people. He abducted one of your great chiefs, the older brother of Chief Wickaninnish, the greatst chief on the west coast of Vancouver Island, of a great people..."So we have come to honor you, to honor our shared history and to apologize for the insult that occurred at the hand of our ancestor, at the hand of our family many years ago, and to say we are sorry for his abducting and insulting your great chief and his family, and for the burning of Opitsat. It is something we have felt pain about, and we are now feeling great honor that you welcomed us back into your territory."
"We want to thank you for your words, on behalf of Chief Wickaninnish. ...We hear your words, and our chiefs accept the words you have spoken to us. It is with good hearts that we carry you the rest of the way to our nation, to our homeland through these waters. We will guide you safely, our chiefs and our people will guide you safely. We accept your apology."
Saturday, August 20, 2005
Whale MourningA whale mourning the death of her calf kept divers at bay who were attempting to retrieve the marine mammal's body on Australia's Gold Coast. The 13-foot baby humpback died after becoming entangled in nets intended to protect swimmers from sharks.
Monday, August 08, 2005
Even really good kids get sent to time out now and then. Recently, while sitting in one, she chipped the new paint from the wall. Her mom applied it only a few days before. Hey, I get it. It probably came off easy and felt good to peel it. Most likely, she was having a very satisfying kinesthetic experience.
Mom, however, lost her cool when she saw the fresh paint and had words with her daughter. Apparently, Mom had a lot of words...heated words. Hey, I get it. Painting is hard work. It is one of those jobs where you can stand back and see what you've done. When I paint a room, I expect the job to be pristine...for at least a week! Seeing chunks missing before the paint even sets would cause me frustration, too.
So my great-niece stood there, listened to her mom, and then said, "I know you are having a bad day Mom...and I know you are grumpy, but you need to get control of your temper!"
Tell us a story of a wonderful child...or of an emotionally mature moment (from a child or an adult).
Wanda Tucker, Coach
Sunday, August 07, 2005
Today I gave St. Francis (and the deck) a bath. Here in Oregon, everything is green. Sometimes, even things that didn't start out that way turn green with moss and algae over the fall and winter. St. Francis looked a bit more like St. Patrick prior to the high powered shower I gave him, and after a rain the deck could be used as a skating rink.
I work with people all week. I love it, but at the end of the work day, I can't always see what I have accomplished. Some days, I like doing jobs that show. When I am done I can point at the finished product and say, "Doesn't that look great?" This was one of those days. Now, until the fall and winter bring the next layer of green, I can sit in my living room and enjoy the sparkling, clean view of St. Francis on the deck.
What is your favorite task...the one you do for the sheer joy of how it looks and feels when you are done? Tell us about it and share the joy.
Wanda Tucker, Coach
Saturday, July 30, 2005
During World War II, as more and more men joined the armed forces to fight the war overseas, women contributed at home, working in the shipyards and manufacturing plants. Their working these jobs challenged traditional notions of women's capabilities. Women in overalls carrying their tools to work inspired the song, Rosie the Riveter, in 1942. Norman Rockwell, one of America's most popular 20th century artists, painted this rendition, published as the cover of the Saturday Evening Post on May 29, 1943.
Imogene Fagan was a Rosie the Riveter. She worked in the Portland Shipyards as a welder during the war. The tradition was that when a landing craft was welded perfectly--with no leaks--the ship was named for the welder. If you follow this link, you will see a picture of Mrs. Fagan atop #939, Imogene Fagan...the ship she welded...perfectly.
Not only did Mrs. Fagan and the other Rosies contribute to the cause of their day by manufacturing the equipment and artillery needed by the military, but they also paved the way for women of the future by breaking down the stereotypes about what a woman can do. I am grateful on both counts.
We won't all get ships named for us and we don't always get to see the impact we make for future generations, but we can still be proud of work done well.
What accomplishments make you proud?
Tell us about a time the energy you put into something paid off.
Go ahead--be proud of your achievements.
I want to hear.
Wanda Tucker, Coach
Friday, July 22, 2005
I planned to introduce Marty and Misi today, but I don't have any pictures that do them justice. So I'll just have to leave you wanting. When I first moved in with them, they were pretty shy. Now I think they might be willing to pose for me.
Instead, here's a picture I took in Hawaii. Cats really know how to rest. What a life, huh?
(I took this photo on Kauai at Aunty Angeline's day spa.)
Thursday, July 21, 2005
So why am I writing about him? I ran across an article about David in Inc. magazine. And I know the guy! David Slawson is making a difference for the planet. That is worthy of note.
He is a good businessman, to be sure. Not many massage therapists turn their practices into alternative health care facilities employing 70 professionals, then buy a small school and turn it into one of the largest in the country and become first in the state to be approved by the national professional organization, American Massage Therapy Association (AMTA).
David saw a need--smelled and felt it in his lungs, actually--for cleaner energy when he lived here in Portland. According to the article, on his first night in a new downtown apartment, he opened the window before going to bed and got blasted with vehicle exhaust. The next day, he decided to do something about it.
Now David Slawson's company, Stirling Energy Systems, Inc. (SES), develops technology and power plants for renewable, non-polluting energy. Their mission "is to deploy clean and sustainable energy technologies to assist in the abatement of global warming and in directing the market away from old paradigm polluting sources of electrical power generation."
By now you know that I care about energy...personal, professional, global. I care about clean energy and how to be good stewards of the resources we have available. David started as a massage therapist working on individuals, treating them and their energy systems. Then he expanded his practice into a 70 professional alternative health care facility, reaching more of the community. Next, he bought a school and turned it into a nationally recognized professional training facility...to teach people how to work on people's energy systems. Now, David's company, SES, makes a difference globally.
Individual...local...national...global. Natural progression. Is David Slawson an ordinary guy? Yes and no. Yes--I hope he is because it gives me hope for the rest of us. No--not by statistical averages, because the rest of us haven't done it...yet.
How big can you dream? Do you want to make it come true?
(I wanted to post a picture; however, the SES site has protected their photos. Please, go there and check them out.)
Wanda Tucker, Energy Coach
[PS--David, if you find this site, congratulations...and thank you.]
Wednesday, July 13, 2005
When is the last time you tried something new? New food? New restaurant? New clothes? New skill? New route home? New t.v. show? New movie?
Try something new to you then tell me about it. Give me the full review.
Wanda Tucker, Coach
A baby and Ingie the orangutan are new to each other.
(Photo taken at the Oregon Zoo.)
Sunday, July 10, 2005
When I heard this story about dolphins using sponges on their noses (Credit for photograph: PNAS / Janet Mann) to protect their sensitive snouts while foraging I was captivated. It is a skill--a learned behavior--that mothers pass on to daughters in Shark Bay off the western coast of Australia. One male was observed sponging. Most of the spongers are female. Apparently, the males aren't interested in learning this skill. They would rather be out socializing.
Learning about animals' abilities to use tools or have cultural interactions validates some inner knowing for me. I am not so anthropocentric that I think we are the only species who can learn, create, come up with ideas, or have ongoing relationships.
I do believe that we are responsible to other animals and for what we do to their environment--their habitat. I take seriously our responsibility to be good stewards of planetary resources; and I believe it is important to give back in a meaningful way. Recently, one of my clients told me, somewhat embarrassedly, that she gives money to a gorilla conservation organization. I think she was surprised when I said, "That's great!"
Good stewardship requires making conscious choices: recycle; buy, eat, use organic; give money; volunteer. Amazing to think that these behaviors can all add up to something if enough of us do them, isn't it?
Somehow hearing about dolphins using sponges for gloves on their rostrums reminds me that I am responsible. I am responsible to learn and practice new behaviors.
I am responsible for them.
Wanda Tucker, Coach
Wednesday, July 06, 2005
Yes, I admit it. Humility is good for me.
Where we put our attention and energy determines what we create. When I state that I never will...[fill in the blank]...I am emphatic. I concentrate energy into the statement and the idea. (Energy is energy--and the NOT doesn't count.)
So, I just want to say...I'M NEVER GOING TO BE A MILLIONAIRE!
What is it that you will never do?
Saturday, July 02, 2005
Finding this out was just the excuse I needed to post pictures of my dear friend, Larry. He lived to be 18 years minus one day. Larry's been gone several months now. I still miss him. He was such a cool guy. His presence was so big it was palpable and his energy was calm and soothing. He was my familiar.
In the morning, when I sat to read the paper and drink coffee, Larry curled up on the back of my chair with his paw on my shoulder, purring loud and hard. He wasn't much for sitting on laps, but he loved to be close and touch me...on his terms.
Larry and Saint Francis of Assisi
In his last year, Larry loved lying on the deck in the sun, leaning on St. Francis of Assisi. Larry slept all day at the feet of the statue. The sun shining on the concrete warmed St. Francis, making him nice to snuggle. On really hot days, Larry moved to the shady side and Francis sheltered him from the direct sun, still warming Larry's old bones. Maybe Larry knew St. Francis is the Patron Saint of Animals and the Environment. Maybe they were communing...getting acquainted before meeting face to face.
I took dozens of pictures of Larry and St. Francis. Sometimes I just sit and flip through the slide show. Seeing them together never ceases to move me and my heart fills every time.
St. Francis and I miss Larry. Well...the concrete St. Francis and I do. I have no doubt that Larry and the real one still keep one another company.
Wanda Tucker, Larry's friend (and St. Francis's, too)
Wednesday, June 29, 2005
During the day, Mr. Elbow (the owner) was there working. He changed the name of the movie on the markee every week to advertise the upcoming double feature. Sometimes letters fell to the ground below. If I found them and returned them to him, he'd give me a dollar.
When I couldn't find any letters in the tall grass--and I felt brave enough--I ventured to the building that housed the projection booth and snack bar where Mr. Elbow was cleaning and preparing for the next showing. I asked if he had any chores that I could do for him. He handed me a bottle of Windex and a roll of paper towels and I cleaned the glass in the candy cases. Sometimes I swept the floor. He paid me a dollar.
Even when I was 10, I liked the idea of being self-employed and providing a service. Retail was not my thing...lemon-ade stands held no appeal for me.
Remembering the plans and desires of our childhood puts us in touch with our passion--and that's where the energy is. Find your passion. Reconnect with the energy of your youth.
My other dream was to be an actress. I still have time.
How about you? What's your childhood dream? Are you living it?
Tell us about it.
from the Energy Coach,
Friday, June 24, 2005
I talked to my coach this morning. She challenged me to look at how I rest. That's right...rest!
My tendency is to keep going until I can't any more. Rest consists of sitting down--reading a book, playing a computer game, watching a movie, or doing nothing--until my internal battery recharges enough that I can get up and go again. Sometimes I sit there worrying about all the things I am not getting done.
But what if Rest were my plan? What if I were to rest with intention? What if I were to rest before my battery ran down completely? Would that feel different? I'm betting it would.
I invite you to take the challenge with me. Then tell me how it works for you. I'd love to hear.
(I took this picture at the Crystal Springs Rhododendron Garden a few weeks ago when I went there with a friend from out of town. We had a wonderful restful visit.)
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