Saturday, July 22, 2006

What more is there to say?

I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make a life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.

In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a person humanized or dehumanized.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

I would love to hear your thoughts and reactions--your questions and wonderings. At the moment, I am sitting with this thought. Later, I may have more to say.
In the meantime, bend my ear...
Wanda Tucker, Coach
PS - Thanks to sar_girl for sending this quote to me.
And thanks to whoever took the picture.


sar_girl said...

Hey, thanks for the credit on this quote...I LOVE this quote. Think what a better place the world would be if everyone took the high road and tried to better another person or situation. It isn't always the situation but how you react to that situation that makes it good or bad. I have really been trying to change my reaction to situations, especially with my kids, we all know how stressing they can be! I noticed the calmer I stay, that calmer they are when a situation arises. Same with dealing with my spouse. My husband says "If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." That got me to thinking that I can do better than that for myself and the people I care about. It doesn't always happen that way, we are all only human and have our moments but at least I try and it works sometimes!

Wanda Tucker said...

Your husband and kids are fortunate to have you. Taking the high road is a fine art that your kids will learn well by watching you. (And your husband, too.)

I have also found that (in spite of my best intentions) there are some people who will twist my words and turn them into a negative meaning to match their own inner landscape. I can only be responsible for myself and my intentions and do my best to take the high road. I can't make them get it.

Sad though it may be, if it doesn't work, sometimes it is because the other person is set on maintaining a fixed world view.

In that case, see my entry below entitled Eskabo Da'an:

Get out of the way.
Get out of the way.
Get out of the way.

graceonline said...

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

Wanda, thank you for this quote, and for your own sage thoughts--exactly what I need today.

Thank you. Thank you.

sar_girl said...

I think taking the high road is something you have to practice and think about. I think it starts with taking a 10 second 'breather' and thinking about what you should or shouldn't say. Sure I have my moments when it is easier to scream or say something really dumb in the heat of the moment. It is easier to react with emotion and not your brain. The high road is a choice. I always tell my kids to "be the bigger person". Even if I know their right, there are just some people and situations that make you look better if you walk away.

Wanda Tucker said...

I found another great quote by Marya Mannes that addresses this issue. Look for it in a new post....