Tuesday, July 25, 2006

As within, so without....

Your success and happiness lie in you... Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.

Helen Keller 1880-1968

(Curious on the mountain. Photo by Gerald Olson.)

What makes you happy? Where can you find that spark of joy inside and, once you do, fan the flames that keep it burning?

I have always reacted negatively to the New Age-y statement, "You create your own reality," because the way people used it, they were implying that it meant we create our external experiences. Period.

"Oh, a piano fell out of the sky and landed on your head? You created that reality."

"You were pulling weeds in your front yard when a gang initiation was taking place and you were shot in a driveby? You created that reality."

To that kind of thinking, I say, "Hogwash!" Life isn't that simple and that kind of statement too easily turns into "Blame the victim."

What is true, though, is that how we respond to our external situations creates our reality. If I am always struggling against the circumstances of my life, my life will be tired and miserable. But if I can find some peace within and meet my life with joy--or at least acceptance--the reality of my life will be easier.

How do you perceive what just happened? Can you look at it and grin or are you railing against the heavens? If you can find the joy inside--the one that is there no matter what is happening on the outside--you will find that all of life is pretty good.

Tell me about a time when you know that the way you perceived the situation made it better for you. I'd love to hear.

Wanda Tucker, Coach


sar_girl said...

Ok, you know how I feel about this.....I believe that your reaction to a situation makes it better or worse. You can live your life miserable thinking about how life is so unfair to you or you can 'take the high road' and do something to make your life better or better yet someone else's life better also. "What can I do so that this doesn't happen to someone else." In my search and rescue training I travel to different groups of kids and different schools and teach them how to survive and be comfortable while waiting to be found if they are lost. I put up with a lot of pesky kids but if it saves the life of just one of the hundereds it is all worth it. I guess that would be my inspiration. I love my SAR work. There is something about helping someone who can't help themselves. I have a t-shirt that says "Search and Rescue: so others may live." I think that is a pretty cool idea.

Wanda Tucker said...

That is a pretty cool idea. Thanks for being willing to volunteer your time and energy to make this world a better place.

I am right there with you on the "high road." I know I misstep sometimes, so it is good to know that I have sar_girl to find me and pull me back up when I fall down the ravine.

Jenny Rough said...


This posting hit home. I just uprooted my whole life and moved across country and have been miserable. Then, about a week ago, I told myself ENOUGH! I am going to think "positive thoughts" and have "positive responses" to my circumstances here. Amazing -- I'm LOVING IT.

A variation of Proverbs 23:7: As a WOMAN thinketh in HER heart, so is SHE.

Wanda Tucker said...

Amen, sister!

I do believe that our reactions/responses contribute greatly to the reality we perceive. The other part of that is when my attitude, response, and reactions shift, the people around me begin to respond differently to me, too. I don't think, however, that is the same thing as "blaming ourselves" for that plane falling out of the sky.

Know what I mean?