Your success and happiness lie in you... Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.
Helen Keller 1880-1968
(Curious on the mountain. Photo by Gerald Olson.)
What makes you happy? Where can you find that spark of joy inside and, once you do, fan the flames that keep it burning?
I have always reacted negatively to the New Age-y statement, "You create your own reality," because the way people used it, they were implying that it meant we create our external experiences. Period.
"Oh, a piano fell out of the sky and landed on your head? You created that reality."
"You were pulling weeds in your front yard when a gang initiation was taking place and you were shot in a driveby? You created that reality."
To that kind of thinking, I say, "Hogwash!" Life isn't that simple and that kind of statement too easily turns into "Blame the victim."
What is true, though, is that how we respond to our external situations creates our reality. If I am always struggling against the circumstances of my life, my life will be tired and miserable. But if I can find some peace within and meet my life with joy--or at least acceptance--the reality of my life will be easier.
How do you perceive what just happened? Can you look at it and grin or are you railing against the heavens? If you can find the joy inside--the one that is there no matter what is happening on the outside--you will find that all of life is pretty good.
Tell me about a time when you know that the way you perceived the situation made it better for you. I'd love to hear.
Wanda Tucker, Coach